The Family: The Woman

The Successful Woman

You are the backbone of every society. If you are righteous more than half of the society is righteous.  You are strong yet gentle. Your sacrifice does not go unnoticed and your efforts will be rewarded. You are the first teacher of the next generation, if your teaching is fair, truthful and just, the entire society that will succeed you will be so. You do not let your mind get distracted by this world of illusions and play. The hereafter is always your priority and you give it preference over this world whose worth is less than that of the wing of a mosquito.

You advise your sister with wisdom when you see her committing sins, and you persist with patience and forbearance. You are a righteous wife and you do not let the harm of others deter you from your goal and you remember the saying of the Noble Messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم) that:

“Paradise is nearer to any of you than the Shirak (leather strap) of his shoe, and so is the (Hell) Fire.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari]

You spend in charity in awe, love and hope of your Lord. You remember the revelation uttered by the most truthful of mankind (صلى الله عليه و سلم):

“I looked at Paradise and found poor people forming the majority of its inhabitants; and I looked at Hell and saw that the majority of its inhabitants were women.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari]

You are determined to be of the women of Paradise and you strive with the necessary deeds and intention to obtain it. You have a good opinion of Allaah and you strive to be of the women that the Messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said:

“If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: Enter Paradise through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.” [Saheeh al-Jaami’- Graded Saheeh by Al-Albani]

You are successful and you will inherit Gardens within which your every desire will be met and you will not fear nor grieve, as The Lord, Almighty said:

“Truly those who believe, and do deeds of righteousness, and perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), and give Zakat, they will have their reward with their Lord. On them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.” [Surat Al-Baqarah: 277]
“This is the Paradise which you have been made to inherit because of your deeds which you used to do (in the life of the world).” [Surat Az-Zukhruf: 72]

The Unsuccessful Woman

You are the destruction of the society. You are abrupt, irrational and selfish. If the situation complies with your desires you are happy and if it doesn’t depression, anger and hatred reign over your heart. You are a hindrance to good and a catalyst for evil. You are misguided and you misguide others under the pretence of intelligence.

You abandon the rights of your family by not educating them in that which is good, rather you facilitate their desires like you wish yours were facilitated and you lead them to more harm than they can bear. You disregard your children and let the TV, internet and the most evil of mankind raise them for you. You think they will love you for succumbing to their desires, but devastation is all that lays in wait.

You are a trial for those around you and men are not safe from the likes of you. The Messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said:

“After me I have not left any affliction more harmful to men than women.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari]

You deceive others to “get ahead” when in reality, you deceive only yourself. On the surface you appear a delicate flower but the closer one gets, the more harm he will incur from your thorns. You have fallen in the black hole of materialism and goodness and piety are light years away. If goodness enters your mind, it is a rarity and you only follow it if there is alongside it a fulfilment of your desires.

You have lost the honour and respect that the Successful Woman has by degrading yourself to a tool of men. They use you for your “beauty” and throw you away when it fades. You think you are empowered but you have enslaved yourself to the wants of the opposite sex. You look down on the women of dignity, confusing envy for them with pity. In reality you are the one to be pitied and they are to be envied. The successful woman wishes to help you but you turn away wishing to turn her away with you.

You imitate men in order to feel importance but you are cursed as you do so. You leave the high status endowed to women to degrade yourself in seeking other than it. You have seen the truth but disregarded it, in exchange for an hour of play in this world. You are lost and only by the Mercy of Allaah will you become of the guided and successful. Allaah is Just and if there is goodness in you, you will be from the successful, but Allaah does not guide those who do not deserve it:

“How shall Allah guide a people who disbelieved after their belief and after they bore witness that the Messenger (Muhammad SAW) is true and after clear proofs had come unto them? And Allah guides not the people who are Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers).” [Surat Al-Imran: 86]

May Allaah guide us to be from the Successful Ones and protect us from the evil plots of Shaytaan and from the evils of our own selves. May peace and salutations be upon the Noble Prophet Muhammad, his family, his companions and all those that follow them in goodness.


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