Ibn al-Qayyim (رحمه الله) said:
“Whoever neglects to teach his son that which will benefit him, and ignores him, has done something very bad indeed. Most children go astray because of their parents who neglect them and fail to teach them the duties and Sunnahs of their religion. They neglect them when they are young so they do not benefit themselves or benefit their parents when they grow up.” [Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi]
The right of children is that they are brought up with the necessary Islamic knowledge, when it comes to Tawheed of Allaah in His Lordship, His Names and Attributes and His right to be worshipped alone. They should be educated in the fiqh of tahaarah (purity), salaah, zakaah, sincerity to Allaah and all other aspects of the Deen. They should be taught to fulfil the rights of Allaah upon them, as well as the rights of the creation upon them. This knowledge will benefit them in the dunya as well as in the akhirah and neglecting such a critical aspect can end up destroying them.
Ibn al-Qayyim (رحمه الله) said:
“How many people have caused misery to their own children, the apples of their eyes, in this world and in the Hereafter, by neglecting them, not disciplining them, encouraging them to follow their whims and desires, thinking that they were honouring them when they were in fact humiliating them, that they were being merciful to them when in fact they were wronging them. They have not benefited from having a child, and they have made the child lose his share in this world and in the Hereafter. If you think about the corruption of children you will see that in most cases it is because of the parents.” [Tuhfat al-Mawlood]
If we teach our children the beautiful manners of this deen, and we do not neglect them now, they will not neglect us when we are old and fragile, by the permission of Allaah. We want that our children will be of those who pray to Allaah:
“My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.” [Surat Al-Israa: 24]
“Our Lord, forgive me and my parents and the believers the Day the account is established.” [Surat Ibrahim: 41]
It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar (رضي الله عنه) said:
“Allaah has called them abraar (righteous) because they honoured (barru) their fathers and children. Just as your father has rights over you, so too your child has rights over you. [Al-Adab al-Mufrad]
He also narrated that the Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
“Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house” [Sahih Al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim]
We have the responsibility of raising our children correctly and they can either be a source of our sorrow or a source of our joy and ongoing deeds after death, as the Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
“When a person dies, all action is cut off for him with the exception of three things: Ongoing charity, knowledge which benefits, or a righteous child who makes supplication for him.” [Al-Adab al-Mufrad, graded Sahih by Sheikh Al-Albani]
May Allaah make us able to fulfil the rights He has over us, as well as the rights our children, our parents and the people have over us. May He send His Salaah and Salaam upon the final Messenger, Muhammad, his wives, his companions and all those that followed them in righteousness until the Day of Resurrection.